STFU is the infamous FemDom event (formerly known as 50 Shades of STFU) – a BDSM play party centering femme/themdoms, hosted by Mistress Viola. We are so excited to be taking over The Den for a night of unmatched debauchery.
It's midsummer and PRIDE WEEK so strip down to your rainbow jock strap, your most true and proud self, from footlickers to furries, rubbersluts to leatherbois, daddies to mommies, tops to bottoms! All are welcome if you love and/or worship femdommes, if you're a femme/them domme, if you're a switchy slut with nothing to lose -- you know the drill. We've been making this scene since 2017 so let's resume our abnormal activities and subvert the dominant gender paradigm like our freedom depends on it, because PRIDE WAS A RIOT and we will not SHUT THE FUCK UP.
What happens at this event? STFU is a BDSM play party, which means that folks engage in adult activities and consensual kink at various kinky stations throughout the club. There will be “Tastings” (experienced tops will do short scenes with those who sign up – these are limited and first come first serve.) There will be multiple play areas and equipment, a mutli-domme foot worship/massage area, and a central hard point for suspension. Vendors will sell some kink items. There is a full bar with drinks and NA beverages (as well as some food items). As usual, service submissives will be circulating with trays of free snacks and sweets. There will be security and DMs as usual. The space is accessible and has enclosed outdoor spaces as well.
The space is 21+. ADA accessible. Masks are not required, but please do stay home if you are feeling sick in any way for the safety of all attendees.
DRESS CODE:
STFU works to create an inclusive space for LGBTQIA, pansexual, queer, or straight submissives and their femme tops. If you're a cis male dom/top this is really not the space for you. However, if you're open and switchy and you can abide by the dress code you are welcome to join us! The overall rule is that men (trans men are men!) are not to be assuming a position of power at this party, and they should dress to represent that (no effort, no entry). FemDom/them/femme attendees can dress to impress as they wish (whatever makes you feel powerful!).
Men and submissive attendees are expected to dress to express their interest in femdom, even in some small way, examples include:
Fetish wear, collars/leash, cuffs, high heels, fetish shoes, hoods, leather, PVC
Crossdressed, glamour, make-up, lingerie
Uniforms*, costumes, puppy or animal costumes (*Racist/fascist symbols or uniforms are not allowed in the club. )
Bright silly clothing, rainbows, sweet jammies, cute underpants, bow ties, bunny ears, etc.
May not wear plain street clothes, jeans, or even a nice suit.
First-timers and submissives who do not own fetishwear: Can be shirtless or take their pants off to show off their undies + we will have light up bunny ears you may use as well for the duration of the event if you have not come prepared.
Men not abiding by the dress code inside the club may be asked to leave.
OFFICIAL PARTY RULES OF ENGAGEMENT:
All guests are required to sign the Liability Waiver at the entrance.
No drugs or outside alcohol allowed.
No knives, pepper spray, or deadly weapons (including fake ones).
No blood play, urine play, hot wax, fire, vomit, scat, or heavy breath play (some breath play allowed with pre-approval from dungeon monitors). The DMs will end scenes including these prohibited actions/activities.
CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Do not touch another person or their property without their explicit permission. No means no. Do not get pushy or aggressive. This behavior will be grounds for being asked to leave the club. Play is encouraged but NEVER expected.
Cell phones may only be used outside the event. NO PHONES OUT IN CLUB. If we see you taking photos or filming you will be asked to leave immediately. The only exception is at the photobooth. Please ensure only consenting people are in any photo taken at the photobooth.
No audio or video recording devices are allowed.
Do not interrupt scenes!
Do not get too close to play scenes or ask to be involved.
Always negotiate boundaries before playing. Consensual play only!
Dungeon Monitors (DMs) will be present and monitoring the space, be aware: the space can be crowded. Attendees will respect the Dungeon Monitors, hosts, security, and club staff and will adhere to the rules and instructions.
Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. Be aware of the space and energy you are taking when you hover or get near a play scene.
Limit your play scenes to 30 mins to allow time for others to use the play areas and dungeon furniture.
Genitals must be covered unless part of an active play scene. This goes all for all attendees. Sheer stuff is ok just make sure the goodies are covered in some way.
Clean furniture and play equipment before and after scenes. If engaging in play, please put down a towel. Some towels and basic cleaning supplies will be provided. Attendees can bring their own blankets or towels as well.
Do not move play furniture or install suspension gear without discussing with the DMs or party host first.
If you're planning to embark on an intense or edgy scene please let a DM know prior.
If you feel someone is misbehaving, being aggressive, or making you or someone else feel uncomfortable, please let the DMs, hosts, or club staff know ASAP and we will do what we can to inform the individual or have them removed.
Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance. DMs and/or other experienced players will intervene and come to your aid when they hear it. If a DM hears the word "red" they also might intervene if they feel it is necessary.